Tuesday, December 3, 2019

Old Age Ain't What It Used to Be


Our society is being transformed.  Sure, we have had the civil rights movement that ended Jim Crow laws and other forms of discrimination.  The Women’s Movement and Title IX opened the doors in the professions and sports for women.  The LGBT movement (even with its excesses) resulted in marriage equality and other accommodations for gays and transgender people. 

But last week, there were a few news items that signaled that there is a new movement afoot.  When considered together, these anecdotes say something about our society, culture and demographics.

The Gray Movement is bursting forth. 

First, NBC news reported on Shawnee Service Center in Wilmette where two men in their 80’s have been working together for 60 years…. and have no intention of retiring. (https://www.nbcchicago.com/on-air/as-seen-on/senior-mechanics-lifelong-friends-565559342.html).  This story caught my attention as I have been noticing more and more people working well past the usual retirement age.  Chicago attorney Fred Lane (who I have had the pleasure of getting to know and occasionally playing golf with) still does mediations and arbitrations and teaches a clinic in the same.  He is north of 90, still vibrant and engaging and a deadly accurate golfer, especially around the green.  Film maker Clint Eastwood shows no signs of slowing down, with his latest film to be released this month and the prolific Eastwood is 89.  Many musicians are still touring.  Mick Jagger is 75 and the Rolling Stones still put on a good show.  I saw Alice Cooper a couple of years ago, and he hasn’t lost a step.  It is not surprising that our political class is aging out as well.  Donald Trump is 73 and two of his rivals, Joe Biden and Bernie Sanders are 77 and 78, respectively.  I predict that within a decade, this nation will be led by an octogenarian.  We are seeing more people continue to practice their trade into their September, October, and November years.

In another news item last week, an intruder broke into the home of an 82 year old woman in Rochester, New York (https://edition.cnn.com/2019/11/24/us/82-year-old-bodybuilder-grandma-intruder-trnd/index.html).  The poor sot made a bad life decision.  It turned out that the woman, Willie Murphy was a trained powerlifter, and she literally turned the tables on the 28 year old intruder,  grabbing a table and beating him with it until the table broke.  She jumped up and down on him and squirted shampoo in his eyes and dragged him out of her house.  “Don’t mess with Willie,” one of her friends said.  More and more people in the later stages of life are staying physically fit and are fully capable of defending themselves.  I couldn’t help but giggle while I watched the news clips of the incident and was in awe as they showed some clips of Willie weight training.

And finally, there was the story of 83 year old Hattie Wiener of Hell’s Kitchen, NY.   “Tinder Granny” as she is known, has led a very active and colorful life, to say the least—a life that would have made Mae West blush.   She apparently had a long history of hooking up with young men on Tinder and having a series of one night stands.  But, alas, Hattie has announced that she’s finally tired of the cougar mill and is finally ready to settle down with one man (https://nypost.com/2019/11/27/83-year-old-tinder-granny-ready-for-love-after-decades-of-one-night-stands/?utm_medium=SocialFlow&utm_source=NYPTwitter&utm_campaign=SocialFlow).  One can only hope that she was practicing her catting around safely.  While I don’t advocate Weiner’s lifestyle, she is demonstrating that she is very much alive, and it shows that our sexual lives don’t necessarily have to turn off at age 65 either.  In Japan, the sex industry is changing, too.  The Wall Street Journal reports that older men are hiring young women, not necessarily to have sex with them, but just to lay next to them and keep them company. 

These stories all splashed across the media this week.  Western and Asian societies are aging and our demographics are changing.  It is also the case that lifespans are increasing (except in the U.S. for middle aged white men).   These anecdotes are illustrative of the reality of those changes.  Many of us are making different life choices--- to live fuller lives in every respect as we age—professionally, physically, and yes, sexually.   These people are showing us how to run through the tape.

The Gray Age is here.

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